6 things I learned in College

1. Choose the course you love

Choosing the course you want and thinking long term is the first step to success. You should not take up something you don’t love. Don’t take up a course just because others want it because if its not what your heart beats you’ll end up either failing or jumping from one course to another.

2. Academics is important

It should be taken seriously. Academics may be overrated and dragging but everything is helpful. Every theory when applied makes a difference.

3. Academics is important but so is extra curricular

It may not be a part of the grading system but these activities will help you with the skills you need to equip yourself when you start working. It will form part in building your personality. It will be your first training. You just need to learn to balance out academics and extra curricular. And choose the extras wisely.

4. Establish connections

Know your connections and establish rapport. These can be useful in your on the job trainings and even after you graduate. Real life lessons are the best and being referred by is a plus.

5. Party hard and celebrate your youth

This is the time to go wild and free because once you started working and life already hits you,partying harder is not an excuse for failing life.

This is the time to Go on and celebrate life! Don’t drown yourself with the pressure of academics or else you’ll go crazy. You are young.. And you can fail and go home drunk. Do it now instead of later. I don’t want you to regret the things you did not do when and while you can because you were so busy.

6. Prepare yourself

College is your training ground. The world waiting for you is not that forgiving. They will not wait for you to be prepared because they already assumed that you are. You have to out there,well prepared to sell yourself or else you’ll be eaten up alive by those who are and you’ll end up job less or with the job you hate.
Prepare for the battle and succeed. Learn your academics, shape your skills,establish your connections and go out there with pride.

Goodluck! 😘😘

–n

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A letter to the person I should not love,but I did.

I will start this letter saying sorry not sorry.
Sorry for the people I have hurt but I am not sorry because everything I did made me happy.
sorry for the people I have failed because I was so obsessed in this fairytale, but i am not sorry because i chose it. Every inch of it.
Sorry for the love of his life,for having the share of love that was supposed to be yours,but i am not sorry because i have loved him genuinely,purely and wholeheartedly. I have loved him when he needed love. When he asked for love.When you can no longer give the love.


So to you, Love,baby,honey, hubby..
I wanted you to know that you are my greatest love.
The love that sets my soul on fire. The kind of love that wakes me up and tucks me to bed with a smile tattooed on my lips. The love that makes me look forward to everyday.
The love I could’ve described perfect, except for the fact that you are married.

I became your Monday, Wednesday and Friday shift. She was your Tuesday, Thursday and weekends. She’s your pillow,your blanket, your comforter at night. I was just your short time.. Your  some time.

I have loved you for every second of it. I am even guilty of secretly wishing your marriage to fail,so you can come running into my arms and we can be together everyday. I wanted to spend my everyday seeing you beside me,and not just when circumstances seems fit.
You are mine and I am yours remember?
I made you smile again. I made you love life. I added color to it. I gave you the happiness she could no longer give. I loved you way better than she ever did. You are happy with me and I am sure of it.

What I am not sure of, was how long this fairytale would last. I was hoping forever. I was hoping it would never end. What we had was my safe haven.. My world… My life..
I wanted you to know that.
I wanted you to realize that.
What we had was special.. Magical.
But..
It was forbidden.

Maybe that is why you left .
Without goodbye without a kiss..without a word.
You just left.
Just like that.
As fast as how I got to know you.
As fast as how you came and took my world.

Guess forbidden love will never succeed.
You both made a promise that I was never part of.
I was outside your union,your circle.. Outside..
Not a part. Outcast.

But I wanted to remind you about our love,my love.
But I will not beg you to come and reciprocate it.
I just want you to acknowledge that once in your life you were loved by a person that should not love you..
And you show love to a person you shouldn’t love.

STAGE PLAY

It was on the amphitheatre when I first saw you.

You were one of the performers and it gave me a clue.

Pantomime was the act that you did,

And I was undeniably amazed by it.

After that incident that happened then,

I always saw you again and again.

Guess it was destiny when I found out

That one of my friend was your best friend.

We became friends and hang out a lot.

As if we already knew each other that much.

Unusual happiness when I’m with you.

“Just like lovers”, was our view.

You offered me love and I happily accept it.

Since the feeling was mutual,I bet.

It was like a never ending fairytale for me,

No 12 o’clock expiration and a carousel for free.

I thought it was going to be forever,

Our relationship was no ending;NEVER;

But that was a wrong person, I guess

And I feel like I’m not blessed.

What we had was not a fairytale,

What we did was just a stage play.

You’re the prince, I’m the princess

Of a play full of false pretences.

-N

Fourteen (014)

A day I can’t forget,

Is a day when we first met.

I was shocked when I saw you,

Cause my heart was full of hue.

It was on an unexpected place,

The scene was so fast like a car on a race,

But those smile I’ll always remember

And the feeling I felt when we’re together.

It was a day of ” Fourteen”

When you and I had seen,

It was the day I couldn’t forget,

It was my FAVORITE!!

-N

BROKEN

A boy I admired so much,

Is the one I love to touch.

His cute face and gorgeous smile,

Had captured my eyes with dazzling shine.

He promised to wait and love me forever,

But forever has turned to never;

I saw him strolling with someone else,

Exchanging smiles and sweet caress.

And now a broken piece of me has left,

With no one but myself!

How dare him left me just like that,

With a kept promise of a love!

.-N

I never thought its you

I was alone waiting for nothing,

Then someone came and ask me something,

At first I was shocked but mesmerized,

Because he was the one I idolized.

The moves he made when he dance,

Really captures my heart even at first glance.

And now this heartthrob boy is on my side,

And a feeling of something, I recognized.

“I never thought its you”,he said

“its you who I secretly love and will love till the end”,

Now I know that this boy beside me,

Was in love with nobody but me.

-N

When loving someone becomes draining..

You’re alone.. Sitting in a coffee shop tired of leaving life with no one to share this with..
Then life gives you battle you cannot overcome and a knight to save the damsel in distress..

You found yourself falling..
Falling hard..
Falling deeply madly hard with the person..

Without you knowing.. You have lost yourself in the process.

Maybe loving someone so much makes you forget yourself. You forgot who you are.. What you want.How to decide for yourself and what you really aspire for.
You have forgotten the ABCs you knew so well.

You are so consumed in working hard to please the other person that you dismiss your own needs. You run even if you wanted to walk,and drown because you forgot how to swim.

You have forgotten how to stand up for yourself because there’s a knight to save the princess anyway.

You have forgotten how to speak what’s in your mind and do what your body desires to.
You have got tounge tied,because less talk less mistakes right? Even if you knew that you’re quite the talker.

Its always been about the other person. The wants,the needs, the satisfaction of the other.

Its draining..
Its consuming..

But that’s what commitment is about right?

You commit to work hard to improve your relationship.
You commit to do everything for the betterment.

And it should be both of you. Because if its only you who does the work.. Then indeed it is draining.. It’s not love which is consuming.. It is the relationship. Because instead of two way..it becomes one way.

A relationship with only one whose willing to work is draining. Might as well walk out of it. This siuation gives you two choices..

Are you willing to risk being drained for the rest of your life? And will you patiently wait and try to swim until the other person tries to save you? Or just pack your bags and start anew?

Its your choice.

-N

When love goes wrong..


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Earlier this morning I woke up with the Television on and the hosts and guests of the show were discussing on a topic about LOVE and Mistresses. 

The question was, Can we control being in love with someone who is already committed? or in simple terms.. Can we control Love?

I feel like I am obliged to give my own perception about the question, not that I have in one relationship like that, but because I am a lady and I have my own opinion about it and well.. I partly disagree with their answer.

The guests of the show answered “No, we cannot control it. It is not their choice to become a mistress or to ruin a relationship, they just loved.”

I beg to disagree to that statement.

Yes, we just loved and we cannot choose who we fall for (oftentimes) because as they say,  love happens in ways you never expect it to.

But, case to case basis I may say. When it had come to your knowledge that the other person, or “the person you have fallen for” is already committed and worse “married”, you have to pack your bags and go away! Why would you risk being an option?

Originally posted by heckyeahreactiongifs

Think again, do you ever think that this person will give you lifetime of happiness? Do you think that she/he will ever treat you as a priority? Do you think that she/he will gave up what she/he had long before you came just for you? Stop dreaming! Live in reality! Move on! because that will not happen!, for some it may work but its just 1 out of 10.

I know.. I know.. It’s easier said than done. But, …

Originally posted by yourreactiongifs

Being in a wrong relationship will never lead you to the right path. Put yourself in the shoes of the person on the other side of the line. If you were the original, and someone is flirting with your love, how would you feel?

I agree that love is so unconditional and sometimes although our mind is urging us to leave the person, we cannot do it. Why? because our hopes are still high. In the back of our minds, we are still hoping that we will be the priority and we will be the chosen one. But, this is wrong. No matter how many times we flip the coin,  you will still be the grey area.

It won’t happen overnight. You may shed tears. Reminisce the moments.

But its not for you. She/He is not for you.

Someone already has him/her.

Someone is already making him/her happy.

Don’t be the instrument to him/her committing sins of stabbing their partner in the back. Don’t pull the trigger because you don’t deserve it.

You deserve to be a priority not an option.

You deserve his/her 24 hours not his/her 3 hours or MWF.

You deserve him/her full attention, not his/her part time.

You deserve to her universe and not just a portion.

You deserve someone better, someone who is for you.

and for those lying, unfaithful, cheating partner…

Karma’s a bitch! Would you leave your “Forever” just to be with someone whom you think makes you happier now?

If your answer is YES! then Go!

Do not prolong the agony of the person whose expecting you to be the same man/woman they had met years or months ago.

Originally posted by gurl

You don’t deserve him/her. Just leave!

and..piece of advice..

To wrap this up, No we cannot control love but  we have a choice whether to follow cupid or save our self from a lifetime of guilt and follow our damn mind (for once). Cheers! 🙂

-N

9-17-15

Hindi tayo ganon..

Sabi nila, kapag mahal mo lulunukin mo pride mo kahit mabulunan kana, kahit hindi ikaw ang may kasalanan,ikaw yung unang magsosorry kasi ayaw mong lumipas yung buong araw na magkaaway kayo, dahil ayaw mong masayang ang oras nyo sa bangayan at batuhan ng mga masasakit na salita o hindi magkibuan..

pero totoo pala talaga na sa isang relasyon, isa lang ang  ganon.

Isa lang kasi ang mas nagmamahal.

 Isa lang ang handang magpakumbaba para sa kanila.

 Isa lang ang mas umiintindi.

Isa lang ang mas nagmamahal..

Yung isa, naFall nalang. Sumakay nalang. Kaya kahit na magaway okay lang.

Mag hihintay nalang na kibuin, 

Maghihintay na lambingin.

Maghihintay na mahalin ng sobra,

at kung hindi, hahayaan nalang. sumakay nalang din. NAFALL LANG KASI.

Hindi ba pwede na pareho?

Parehong mahal na mahal ang isa’t isa?

Parehong handang magpakumbaba?

Parehong takot mawala ang isa?

Parehong nagbibigay ng sobra?

Parehong umuunawa?

Parehong nagbibigay para sa ikakaayos at ikatatagal ng relasyon?

PANTAY. WALANG KULANG.WALANG BIASE.

Hindi na kailangang mag hintayan kung sino una kikibo o maglalambing dahil sabay kayo gagawa ng paraan para maging maayos.

Hindi na kailangang bilangin kung sino laging umuunawa o umeefort kase pareho nyo alam na kung ano man ang binibigay ng bawat isa ay higit pa sa kailangan.

Kapag ganun, napakasarap siguro magmahal. Wala ka ng nanaisin pang gawin kung hindi ang magmahal dahil nasusuklian ka.. sobra sobra pa sa hinigi mo.

Araw araw nkaukit ang mga ngiti sa mga labi mo dahil araw araw ka nyang pinapasaya.

Lalo pa siguro magiging masarap mabuhay.

Ang sarap siguro..

Kaso hindi tayo ganun..

Hindi tayo ganon..

Hindi.

 


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The Hunt for Closure.


Recovered post from my Tumblr account.


 

I should have written about this weeks ago but I didn’t. Why? Because of two reasons, First, I do not find time to do so, Second, I cannot find the right words to.

 

I have been hunted for several nights. Three nights of you in my dreams,or maybe more. A week after a week I saw your face appeared in my wildest dreams. Why have you been doing this to me? What do you want?

It was the first night when the dream I had has been put into words when I wrote a poem about it. I knew you were getting married after a week of having that dream and I have nothing to do with it. You know that right? It’s been years already and no communication has been established. Why all of a sudden you would just play with me with the tricks you do of having an unannounced visit in my dreams? What do you want?

How could you just appear and leave no words. Are your skills in leaving me hanging being tested again?

Oh my, please fill me in.. What do you want?

I tried to erase the memories so I would focus on present and leave the visions I had. I do not want it. I do not want you to suddenly appear again and consume my thoughts. No, not ever again!

I was back on track again. Facing reality on my own.

Days had passed and then one night when  I fell asleep there you were standing right in front of me again. Staring. Staring right into my soul. No words. No words had been said. Not a gesture has been made.Just.. just nothing..

I was left blank again. Clueless. Speechless. Looking for answers as to “What do you want?”

How could you leave with no trace for years and just come back all of a sudden and make me feel so weak and startled all over again? I do not want this!

I have been living in my life happy after you leave, how can you make me doubt this happiness by just showing up?

Please stop.

Stop.

Originally posted by attack-clifford

It was last night (I hope it will really be the Last) , when your face was a character in my dreams again.

But this time, you were not alone.

You were with them.

Unlike the past dreams with no gesture made, no words uttered.. this time I heard you.

After years, I once again, heard your laughter.

After years, I once again, saw you cared.

After years, I once again, saw those eyes and how happy your soul was.

Maybe not with me, but with your own family.

And from there I finally realized why you were constantly doing some unsolicited appearance in my dreams.

It was because we never had closure, and you longed for it, we longed for it.

You wanted to say goodbye to what we had before you begin to have what you truly want.

You wanted us to be free from the baggage of the past.

You wanted to show how happy you were with the life you have after we decided to separate ways ,and you wanted to show me that I should be happy with it too.

You wanted to show me that there is a life, a reality waiting for us outside the fantasies we once created, and you already found it and it was my time to find it too.

I found the answer..

What do you want?

 

Closure.

Yes I had been hunted. Hunted by the past. But it was the hunting that made me, us, free again.

 

 

 

Feb2016

-N