Zoe tries to Vlog

Holy weeks are holidays for some..its a chance to visit places because why not? Its long weekend. But, for me, this holiday is best spent with family. It’s the time to do some catching up and bonding moments long stolen other stuffs we attend to during regular days.

As for Zoe and me, we just did staycation.. Aside from the fact that I was sick, it’s the best time to do some parenting 😂

Here’s some snippets of our days together last holiday.😂😂😂 (all raw files)

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How to qualify as a Mom

Can you really call your self a mom if you really haven’t done your job “as a mom” and by “job as a mom” I mean the job of a mom as what society defines it to be.

To qualify as a mom you must experience all of the following: (Not just one or some,but All of it)


1. Give birth
2. ‎Breastfeed
3. ‎See your child grow
4. ‎Witness your child’s milestones.
5. ‎Remember when your child first walk
6. ‎Remember what’s your child’s first word
7. ‎Feed your baby
8. ‎Change your baby’s diaper
9. ‎Take a bath of your baby
10. ‎Send your baby to school
11. ‎Teach your child’s first language
12. ‎Sing lullaby to your child
13. ‎Read them books
14. ‎Tuck them to bed
15. see them grow


These are just the basic things that a mom should do (according to the societal standards) to qualify and be called A MOM.
Its alarming and bias isn’t it?

Mother nowadays are not the typicals. Gone are the days when women are too inferior than men that they don’t even deserve a place in the corporate world..or even to become leaders. Women nowadays,and mostly mothers are sharing the same loads as those of men. They deserve equal rights as their male counterpart.

Society should acknowledge the fact that there are portions of working women who are moms. They are working to provide for the family while climbing their way up to the corporate ladder. She is making sure she meet the needs of her two bosses- her family and her corporate boss.
She should not be at fault not seeing her child’s milestones because she is doing her best to cope up. And believe me it is the worst thing ever for a mom, to know less about her child.

What about those mom’s who portray the role of two personas? Those who struggle to be a mom and a dad disregarding her own personal happiness for her child’s sake? Or maybe asking someone to take care of her child while she source out the ways and means of surviving their life?
Do you think she don’t deserve to be called a mom for missing much? Without even thinking what she had to endure to survive?

What about the mom who choose to travel away from the family to secure their future?
She missed everything.. Knew her child based on photos and videos sent. Contented on the videocalls even if deep inside her heart is pouring out with pain.
Do you think she does not deserved to be called a mother just because she was not there?

Society should stop defining who’s who. Because women deserve everything in this life. They deserved to be heard. They deserve a place. And they deserved to be acknowledged as much as others are. Mothers, especially,are the group of women who are often underrated. People would say “oh they’re just moms.” Like its that simple.
Apparently to the world,mom’s are just those women who change their child’s diapers,breastfeed them and sing them lullabies. But in Reality,these group of women are the toughest species in the planet. They are heroes and have gone through a lot just to make sure their families enjoy a bright future. They sacrificed themselves.. They are selfless.. They are tough!

So how should one qualify to be called a mom?
Screw it!
Everyone can be a mom!
(Even if your not born with the v)

So to all women,especially Mom’s out there, do not let others define who you are or what you want to become because you are doing great!

Happy International Women’s Day!

-N

NOW THAT I AM A MOM.

I stumbled upon a Pinterest post which I can pretty much relate to, and I’d like to share this all with you.

 

BEFORE I WAS A MOM

I never tripped over or forgot words to a lullaby.

I didn’t worry whether or not my plants were poisonous

I never thought  about immunizations.

Before I was a mom-

i had never been puked on.

Pooped on.

Chewed on.

Peed on.

I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.

I slept all night in.

Before I was a mom

I never help down a screaming child so doctors could do tests

or give shots

I never looked into teary eyes and cried

I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin

I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before i was a Mom

I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn’t want to put him down.

I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn’t stop the hurt.

I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.

i never knew knew that I could love someone so much.

I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom–

I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.

I didn’t know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby

I didn’t know that bond between a mother and her child.

I didn’t know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.

Before I was a mom,

I had never gotten up in the middle of the night

every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.

I had never known the warmth,

the joy,

the love,

the heartache,

the wonderment

or the satisfaction of being a mom.

 

I never knew I was capable of feeling so much,

before I was a Mom.

Before I was a mom, I was so carefree ,careless and I do not care!! Y.O.L.O right? But now that I am mother of a 3 year old baby girl, Y.O.L.O will be Y.O.L.O with RESERVATIONS! You would not want to compromise your growing child right? So here’s a poem that would update the one above.

Now that I am a mom,

I google lullaby songs and try to remember the ones I had when I was a child.

I worry about everything and everyone and became too suspicious and paranoid.

I even searched for recommended vaccines and immunizations.

Now that I am a mom,

I have been puked on, several times actually.

I have been pooped on, different texture, odors and colors..you name it!

I have been peed on and even almost bathe with it.

I think about anything and almost everything with or without sense,

and I can hardly sleep because of it.

Now that I am a mom,

I tried all the tactics and advices on how to handle tantrums.

My patience are always put into tests and almost gave up.

Crying alone when everyone is sleeping maintains my sanity.

But, never have I thought that genuine happiness can be felt over a simple grin,and

just by watching a sleeping baby.

Now that I am mom,

I held a sleeping baby  just because I didn’t want to put her down,and

that moment was so priceless I wouldn’t mind my body’s protests.

My heart is shattered into pieces when I see her get hurt and I could not do anything to ease her pain or take it away.

 I had realized that something so small could affect my life so much,

that I am capable of loving someone so much.

Now that I am a mom,

I felt the connection.

My life was being channeled into another human being.

I knew how special it was to satisfy her hunger,and tried every recipe there is.

I learned to sacrifice my personal time and spend every time I have to my baby girl.

I felt important, appreciated and overjoyed because someone loves me so much.

Now that I am a Mom,

I completely forgotten about the 8-hour sleep rule.

I consistently wake up every 10 minutes just to  check if everything’s okay.

I embraced the warmth,

the joy,

the love,

the heartache,

the wonderment

or the satisfaction of being a mom.

I am capable of feeling so much, Now that I am a  mom.

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and I would not have it any other way..

 

 

-n